{"id":7560,"date":"2016-01-26T07:05:41","date_gmt":"2016-01-26T13:05:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.senioradvisor.com\/blog\/?p=7560"},"modified":"2016-04-26T16:57:59","modified_gmt":"2016-04-26T21:57:59","slug":"convincing-your-aging-parents-to-accept-help","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/d30braiqprupoq.cloudfront.net\/blog\/2016\/01\/convincing-your-aging-parents-to-accept-help\/","title":{"rendered":"Convincing Your Aging Parents to Accept Help"},"content":{"rendered":"

Convincing Your Aging Parents to Accept Help\"Convincing<\/span><\/h1>\n

No matter what you\u2019ve accomplished in life, one of the most challenging tasks you may face is persuading a beloved parent or relative to accept help, especially if they\u2019ve always been proud, private, or independent. Here are some tips to make your case when you see that your parents need assistance with housekeeping, cooking, self-care, or other tasks.<\/span><\/p>\n

Talk it over with your siblings and other family members first<\/h2>\n

Before you bring up hiring help with Mom or Dad, touch base with your siblings (if any) and other family members who are invested in their wellbeing. You may find there are differences of opinion that you all need to sort out first before you talk to your parents. If the family agrees on the type of help your parents need, that\u2019s a strong argument in favor of your point of view. If some of you want different types of help, that gives your parents more than one option to consider. <\/span><\/p>\n

Get your parent\u2019s trusted advisors on board<\/h2>\n

Let\u2019s face it; you\u2019ll always be your parents\u2019 child. No matter how much they respect your opinion your parents most likely don\u2019t view you as a peer. That\u2019s why many eldercare experts recommend recruiting your parents\u2019 doctor, close friends, or clergy to talk with them about help. Their opinions may carry enough weight to convince your parents to give it a try. <\/span><\/p>\n

Be patient and keep the conversation going\u2014respectfully<\/h2>\n

When you see your parents having difficulty with things they used to handle with ease, you may think the need for help is obvious. But we all adjust to changes over time, often without realizing it. Or we may know we need help and hope no one else notices. Either way, consider your parents\u2019 self-image and feelings whenever you bring up the need for care. Remember, too, that the final say is up to them.<\/span><\/p>\n

Because the decision is theirs, listen to what they have to say on the subject. There may be specific things they\u2019re concerned about. The cost of help, the potential awkwardness of having an unfamiliar person in the home, and the fear of losing autonomy are common worries among older adults. You may be able to find ways to work around these concerns, but first you have to find out what they are.<\/span><\/p>\n

Take help one small step at a time<\/h2>\n

Shepell FGI<\/strong>, a Canadian family assistance program provider, <\/span>recommends<\/span> getting reluctant parents on board by starting with one small, relatively inexpensive service. In today\u2019s economy, you\u2019ve got a nearly endless list of options, including grocery delivery<\/a><\/strong>, housecleaning<\/a><\/strong>, laundry and ironing, in-home tech support<\/a><\/strong> visits, errand driving, in-home meal preparation, and yard maintenance. You might convince parents with pets to try a dog walking service or mobile pet grooming. A parent with a pool may be ready to outsource cleaning and maintenance to the pros.<\/span><\/p>\n

A positive experience with a small service can set the stage for your folks to accept other help more readily as it\u2019s needed. It can also serve as a trial run to show your parents what\u2019s involved in screening, hiring, and managing help in the home<\/a><\/strong>, so they\u2019ll feel more experienced and capable when it\u2019s time to make the next help decision.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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