{"id":4015,"date":"2015-03-13T07:00:35","date_gmt":"2015-03-13T12:00:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.senioradvisor.com\/blog\/?p=4015"},"modified":"2017-09-19T13:19:27","modified_gmt":"2017-09-19T18:19:27","slug":"how-to-deal-with-your-parents-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/d30braiqprupoq.cloudfront.net\/blog\/2015\/03\/how-to-deal-with-your-parents-divorce\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Deal with Your Parents Divorce"},"content":{"rendered":"
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How To Deal With Your Parents’ Divorce\"How<\/h1>\n

Although divorce among the baby boomer and older generations is becomi<\/span>ng mor<\/span>e common every year, a break-up<\/span> of older parents<\/span> tends to catch grown up children completely off-guard, even if it\u2019s obvious that the marriage has been on the rocks for <\/span>many <\/span>years. <\/span><\/p>\n

Watching parents that you love struggle through the throes of divorce is tough, but it\u2019s possible for families to survive<\/span> (and even thrive) during<\/span> this difficult time. Here’s how:<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t try to parent your parents.<\/span><\/h3>\n

Even if you love your parents and you have the best intentions<\/span>,<\/span> you may make matters worse. Don\u2019t attempt to fulfill the role of counselor, accountant or attorney. Be sympathetic and supportive<\/span> as you can<\/span>, but let your parents navigate the divorce on <\/span>their<\/span> own.<\/span><\/p>\n

S<\/span>upport both parents equally.<\/span><\/h3>\n

S<\/span>trive to be unbiased and never choose one parent<\/span>\u2019s side<\/span> over another<\/span>. <\/span>Avoid getting caught in the middle <\/span>of two warring parents. <\/span> <\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s okay to express your emotions.<\/span><\/h3>\n

Harboring your feelings<\/span> can <\/span>cause stress and resentment<\/span> in the long run<\/span>. Discuss the matter calmly <\/span>and respectfully and keep in mind t<\/span>hat <\/span>your parents are the only people who know <\/span>the entire story behind the end of the marriage<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Seek outside help.<\/span><\/h3>\n

Talk to a counselor or a close friend i<\/span>f you continue to feel <\/span>angry<\/span>, even if you\u2019re s<\/span>ure your feelings are justified<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Set healthy boundaries.<\/span><\/h3>\n

Call a halt if<\/span> your parents are relying<\/span> on you too much,<\/span> or if they are telling you things you don\u2019t want (or need) t<\/span>o know. Similarly, <\/span>put your foot down and <\/span>don\u2019t allow one parent to trash talk the other<\/span> in your presence<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Remain objective.<\/span><\/h3>\n

It\u2019s normal to experience feelings of betrayal, but remember that a divorce involves your parents<\/span>. As difficult as it is, it really i<\/span>sn\u2019t about you. <\/span><\/p>\n

Accept the change.<\/h3>\n

Maintain your family traditions as much as possible, but be flexible and willing to adjust to the new circumstances. <\/span>Accept the sad fact that <\/span>t<\/span>hings aren\u2019t going to be the same. <\/span><\/p>\n

Allow y<\/span>ourself<\/span> to grieve.<\/span><\/h3>\n

Acknowledge that this is a painful loss<\/span> and r<\/span>emember that things will get easier<\/span> in time<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Navigating the world after a divorce is a completely challenging and emotionally wrenching experience in and of itself. Though the past is put behind them, going forward may take a long time for your parents as well. <\/span><\/p>\n

In the movies, it\u2019s depicted that one spouse leaves so that he or she can go live the thrilling fantasy they\u2019ve been dreaming of while the other spouse simply lives in secluded loneliness and pines away. In reality, those who are getting divorced are commonly getting \u201cno-fault\u201d divorces. Couples who are getting divorced in their 50s and 60s realize that they still have a lot of life to live and want to <\/span>go after it in a different way. Giving your parents space and support may be a delicate balancing act. Ensure that you, too, get enough rest and mental support.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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Give your loved ones the time that they need to move on to their new lives. Allow them to talk to you and reach out to them when you sense they are feeling down.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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