{"id":10830,"date":"2016-12-23T07:00:53","date_gmt":"2016-12-23T13:00:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.senioradvisor.com\/blog\/?p=10830"},"modified":"2020-10-14T09:00:02","modified_gmt":"2020-10-14T14:00:02","slug":"dont-call-them-sweetie-supporting-respectful-senior-communication","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/d30braiqprupoq.cloudfront.net\/blog\/2016\/12\/dont-call-them-sweetie-supporting-respectful-senior-communication\/","title":{"rendered":"Don\u2019t Call Them Sweetie: Supporting Respectful Senior Communication"},"content":{"rendered":"

Don\u2019t Call Them Sweetie: Supporting Respectful \"Don\u2019t<\/a>Senior Communication<\/h1>\n

As Baby Boomers move into their senior years, many are running into an unpleasant fact. Too many people in our culture call seniors by nicknames like sweetie and dear<\/a><\/strong> instead of by their names. Older adults are calling out this behavior as demeaning and impolite, and doctors say pet names are a form of ageism that can cause stress and even harm seniors\u2019 health<\/a><\/strong>. Here\u2019s how you can find or build a community for your parents that supports respectful senior communication.<\/p>\n

Ask questions and listen when you visit communities<\/h2>\n

When you\u2019re checking out assisted living communities<\/a><\/strong> or nursing homes<\/a><\/strong>, ask staff members and managers what their policy is on calling patients by name and on the use of pet names like honey and dear. You can also ask residents, if they\u2019re willing to talk to you, and you can listen to conversations in public areas to hear if the overall tone is respectful and personalized.<\/p>\n

Set your expectations<\/h2>\n

Let the community manager and aides know what your parents want to be called, instead of putting your folks on the spot or leaving employees to guess. You can make it easy for busy staffers to remember by putting a nametag or a personalized photo frame near your parent’s bed and making a custom nametag for the door, if that\u2019s allowed. You can explain that your parents do best when they feel seen and heard, and that pet names can be upsetting to them.<\/p>\n

Lead by example<\/h2>\n

When you visit your parents, get to know the other residents and staffers in their community\u2014and be sure you get in the habit of calling them by their names. Just as you want your mom and dad to be treated as individuals, their neighbors and caregivers want to be recognized, too. If your parents have memory or cognitive issues, help them put names to faces. This positive reinforcement can help strengthen your parents\u2019 social ties and set standards for how they\u2019re spoken to.<\/p>\n

Advocate for parents with memory issues<\/h2>\n

Correct use of names is always polite, and it\u2019s especially important for people with dementia and other memory and cognitive issues. Hearing their names can help connect people with dementia to their surroundings. Changes in the brain may cause the names your parents recognize to change as their condition progresses. If your parent suddenly prefers a different name (a nickname from childhood, for example), update the staff and management, and make new nametags and door signs.<\/p>\n

Share your experiences<\/h2>\n

Let the aides and managers at your parent\u2019s senior community know how much you appreciate their respectful communication with your mom or dad. Caregiving is a tough job and your positive feedback can mean a lot to these hardworking professionals. You might consider mentioning the attention to respectful communication when you leave a review of your parents\u2019 community, too, to help other families who are searching for care.<\/p>\n

Find the best senior living communities in the US<\/strong><\/a>, as chosen by families, on the SeniorAdvisor.com blog.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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